While feelings of being liked, being appreciated, and being desired grow through the blind bodily passions of intercourse, where should our souls be during this type of love?
Is love a way for our sensory world to come out through emotion? Is it a syndrome of desire and possession resulting from our genes’ need for biological reproduction? Or is it the sense of joining with a lover and feeling our own existence through another?
Love is generally perceived as a hard-to-explain, intense desire for someone else. It causes a high level of excitement and rapid changes in the body’s chemistry. The brain indicates satisfaction and pain through the chemicals released by love. Pumping these chemicals, even while dreaming or just thinking about the lover, means the person is at the stage of creating a totally different world and finding the meaning for his or her own existence there.
So, is love a sensual feeling or a spiritual need? Where does it start, and how does it end?
Love is clearly just a reflection of emotions resulting from instinctual desires and wishes that can manifest anywhere and anytime. There can be emotional love, sensual love, divine love, universal love, and so on.
Why do we need to feel this feeling, which varies from nature to humanity and from humanity to the Creator?
The popular love stories create the impression that being able to feel such love is a privileged and extraordinary experience. These stories emphasize themes where the lovers can never be united, showing the love to “peak” when they are apart and desperately missing each other. The agony they portray is so vibrant that the love has transformed into something entirely different. The lovers are now identified with all the pain and suffering resulting from their ill-fated passion, so all that is left is the ashes of love.
So, where should the soul be during this type of love?
At this point, lovers voluntarily enslave themselves while their senses, which are powered by the energy of life, continue to persist. Is love therefore a delusion of the senses?
When we notice over time how this highly attractive energy is just an illusion, why do we still pursue it?
After all, how can we relate the ego to love?
Love is bodily and therefore sensual, feeding on passion and lust. It triggers a chemical release that we come to depend on, gradually becoming more attractive.
Maybe the mythological love stories were told in order to educate us about how destructive the senses can be. It’s important to identify what love contributed to the people in those stories.
Even love needs a reason. Pure emotions are almost impossible to control once they are transformed into senses. Love, and everything related to it, is so attractive to us because it disguises itself under a spiritual cowl. In reality, it serves our bodily needs, being driven by reproductive motives. It also relates to an intense need to like and be liked. Could it be that everyone simply desires what they don’t have?
People in the process of understanding their “selves” are not controlled by their senses but rather by reason, intuition, and consciousness. This applies to both genders in reality. When people understand that “being united” is what they really pursue inside, they will abandon their desires and sensual cravings in favor of the values they have established.
People create an identity strong enough to know who they are and what is good for them, and they can realize that love is an external, sensual trap. They learn that what comes from the senses is not intended to be evaluated by the senses, and they value spiritual togetherness over bodily interactions. Consequently, such people will evaluate relationships on a higher level. What really matters is the synergy that can be created rather than a person’s own expectations.
These people value how the feminine and masculine energies are entirely in line with universal values, which is why they know that a relationship based purely on bodily needs is a primitive interaction.
Love is a trap of the senses, and reason is a shield that can protect us from this trap…

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