Hasan Sonsuz Çeliktaş:
In this interview, we’ll be talking about soulmates and spiritual love. I’m interviewing Begüm Güven Karace for a number of reasons. First, I want the opinion of a woman on these issues. Second, she is hosting a two-day seminar on finding soulmates through ThetaHealing® techniques. Third, she has been together with her husband from age 16, which is rather rare. It is actually unusual to see people who are engaged in spiritual practices having such a long-term relationship. I’ll bet many people who are reading this interview have already divorced at least one partner. They may already be with a new partner, or maybe they’re searching for one, asking themselves where this partner is. But why is this harder for women? It could be that spiritual women are not as in demand as spiritual men. Spiritual issues carry yin energy, so women are highly drawn to them. There are consequently many beautiful spiritual women around, and it’s harder for these women to find compatible men. We’ll present a solution to the problem in this interview. Begüm, let’s start by describing what a soulmate is.

Begüm Güven Karace:
A soulmate has a soul that we are already familiar with from another existence, so we feel like we know each other from the moment we first meet. We feel close to each other and may experience intense feelings straight away. For instance, a person may suddenly catch your attention. You may feel intense emotions and empathize with what this person thinks. This is very common with soulmates and members of the same soul group. We feel love for both our soul group family members and our soulmates, and we feel close to them. We feel like we already know them, but the feeling is more intense for a soulmate. That is the only difference.

Hasan Sonsuz Çeliktaş:
Let me ask something directly: The only difference between a soul group family member and a soulmate is sexuality? So you would not have sex with someone from your soul family, but when you meet your soulmate, you feel something similar, but it may lead to sex.

Begüm Güven Karace:
Yes, we could say this of course, but some people do marry a soul group family member. When you ask these people about their feelings for their partners, they will say, “I love him/her like a brother/sister.”

Hasan Sonsuz Çeliktaş:
So there’s no passion?

Begüm Güven Karace:
Yes. Such partners get along well, because they share interests and feel like they know each other since time immemorial, but there’s no passion. They may look like the best among the worst, but on the other hand, without passion, it can be difficult to continue a marriage or partnership.

Hasan Sonsuz Çeliktaş:
Anything passionless is like coffee without milk. It’s the milk that gives the real taste.

Begüm Güven Karace:
A man’s point of view may differ, of course, but in general, both men and women want to be satisfied in all aspects. If we are in a situation where we confuse a soul family member with a soulmate, it will be difficult to continue the relationship indefinitely.

Hasan Sonsuz Çeliktaş:
At this point, what’s the difference between twin flames and soulmates?

Begüm Güven Karace:
I’d like to quote Paula Coelho’s book Brida, which beautifully explains the difference between twin flames and soulmates. Twin flames are mirrors of the soul, literally the two halves of your soul. A soulmate, however, is one who helps us to complete our experiences. A soulmate is someone who will help you to grow and evolve, while your twin flame is a mirror of your soul. We should remember that we attract partners we are similar to, both positively and negatively. If I were to be with my twin flame, he would experience the same difficulties as me simultaneously, and when partners encounter the same difficulties, it becomes harder to live a joyous life. On the other hand, a soulmate can support me through the difficulties, and vice versa, so the relationship flows more fluently and happily.

Hasan Sonsuz Çeliktaş:
I believe it may be difficult to meet a twin flame partner, because the twin flame is another part of the soul and has experienced different things. You may have heard about this, but in a regression session, I experienced that I was a Jew in Auschwitz, while my twin flame was a Nazi officer. I experienced two completely different scenarios in that camp. There is no romanticism here. Twin flames experience some common difficulties but from different perspectives.

The best description of what a soulmate is can be found in the magnificent book 2150 AD. When the hero meets his soulmate, she says, “In order to be with me, you should first be with the others.” For the hero’s frequency, there were twenty women and two men that were compatible from a population of one million people. Applying this to the Earth’s population of seven billion, we must have hundreds of thousands of soulmates. Is this right? There’s not just one soulmate for each of us.

Begüm Güven Karace:
Research into spiritual issues claims that following the transformation and rise from 1988, many soulmates are here to experience life on Earth. I mean, it’s no longer true to say, “I’ve only one soulmate. I found him and lost him, so it’s all over now.” No, this is simply not the case! It’s possible for us to find soulmates with different ages and genders and in different locations. For as long as we love ourselves and be conscious of self-love, we will meet many soulmates.

Hasan Sonsuz Çeliktaş:
On one hand, this is good. If you believe you only have one soulmate, what if he or she was in love with someone else? This way you actually have many options. On the other hand, another question surfaces: If we all have many soulmates, we may be attracted to all of them, which is not acceptable within our current level of consciousness. I believe we are inherently polygamous beings who have been programmed to be monogamists. What do you think?

Begüm Güven Karace:
As far as we know, monogamy comes from a gene not present in 60% of humanity. Carrying this gene also does not mean people will be monogamous, because they may have other partners over time. However, people carrying the monogamy gene do feel guilty if they have an affair, while people without the monogamy gene feel no guilt about it. What’s more, female nature differs from that of men in this regard. Women are more inclined to monogamy as they are limited to giving birth once a year and ovulating once a month, while a man can, in theory, father hundreds of children in a year. Men and women have different programming for the continuation of human life. Women are attracted to men who are suitable to their own genes. They want suitable fathers for their children and are often inclined to stay with one man. Men, meanwhile, are programmed to fertilize as many women as possible. On top of this, cultural and social structures and laws lay down some restrictions on monogamy and polygamy, but we are still created with certain dispositions.

Of course, there is a critical point here. People do not randomly feel attracted to each other. This is where the soulmate concept comes into consideration. If I am together with a soulmate, and if that soulmate is to be my life partner, there are going to be important junctions in our fates when I should not feel attracted to another, nor should he feel attracted to another woman. It is all about completing each other, loving each other entirely, and being implicit. That’s when we can think about monogamy.

Hasan Sonsuz Çeliktaş:
Now, let’s talk about relationships. What’s needed to keep a relationship going?

Begüm Güven Karace:
The only thing that keeps a relationship going is self-love and self-respect. If I do not love and respect myself, I cannot love and respect another. If I do not accept myself, I cannot accept someone else, because that person becomes a mirror to me. I’ll be with someone who shows me the things about me that I’d rather ignore. If I cannot love myself entirely, I will continuously suspect that I am not loved. If I do not respect myself entirely, if I do not accept myself, and if I do not respect and accept the power that created me, I begin to feel like others do not respect me. Yet everyone deserves to be respected and accepted as they are. As long as I respect myself, I begin to love and accept others as they are, and relationships consequently work better.

Hasan Sonsuz Çeliktaş:
So Begüm, you are an instructor of ThetaHealing, which really is a magnificent tool for us. When I want to attract a soulmate, how will ThetaHealing help me?

Begüm Güven Karace:
Through ThetaHealing, we create a reality where it is possible to attract a certain type of people, whether it be soulmates or friends, to our lives. There is an important point before this, however: We should do our best to love ourselves. As we begin to love ourselves and accept how we are, people who will love and accept us will enter our lives. Whether it’s through ThetaHealing or another technique, it’s an exercise in self-love. Louise Hay has made some beautiful videos about mirror work, and many spiritual techniques have useful exercises for self-love. The first step to inviting a soulmate is to work on our self-love and self-acceptance.

Hasan Sonsuz Çeliktaş:
Some readers may wonder why that among all those hundreds of thousands of soulmates, they have not met one yet. This may be because they are not broadcasting the right frequency, the frequency of love. What you say is very important, Begüm, but how do we invite a soulmate into our lives?

Begüm Güven Karace:
We can compile a list by noting down all the features that we would like to see in a soulmate. We should begin by first writing the gender of this soulmate. If we merely say that we want a magnificent soulmate who gives us unconditional love, we may just as well get a cat or a dog. This can come to your life like a soulmate, or it could take the form of a friend with the same gender as you. This is why we should first decide the gender of our desired soulmate.

Then, we should list the features of this soulmate. We can write down both physical and spiritual features. We can then take this list and consider what we have written. Next, what can we offer our soulmate? Do we also possess the features on this list? As you said, it’s a matter of frequency. I can only attract people with the same frequency as me. Let’s say I believe I am poor and should continue to live in poverty in order to evolve, yet my list says I want a rich soulmate. As I do not accept wealth into my life, how can I invite such a soulmate into it? There may a soulmate ready for me, but he will wait for my belief about wealth, and therefore my frequency, to change.

In addition, you should wish for everything to come to pass in the highest possible way. The first task is to make a list and write down the most desirable attributes of a soulmate. The second task is to examine this list and for each item, decide if we are really ready to accept it in our lives. Through ThetaHealing or another method or prayer, you can then ask for your wish to come true. Next, close your eyes and imagine the person described in your list standing next to you and holding your hand. This person carries all the features you wanted, but what do you feel? What do all these features remind you of? Is there anything that makes you feel afraid or anxious? What would your mother say? What would your father say? What kind of a person is your soulmate? How do your friends react? When you try to feel and consider these things, anything that restrains you comes to the surface, so you have the opportunity to clean those restrains.

Hasan Sonsuz Çeliktaş:
Let’s use an analogy for inviting a soulmate. What ingredients can we use in a dessert? Which nuts should we use? How much flour and sugar should it have? There is a saying: “Love does not mean gazing at each other but rather looking outward together in a single direction.” Is this accurate? Should partners look outward together in the same direction?

Begüm Güven Karace:
Everyone has different preferences. For example, I often meet people who say, “I want a spiritual partner.” Sure, we all want someone who is special, but on the other hand, not everyone is as interested in spiritual issues as we are. An important point here is that I should rather ask for a partner who is tolerant and supportive of me in my spiritual endeavors. Almost 300 people were at the soulmate course I attended. The first thing Vienna Stibal asked us was how many of us wanted a spiritual soulmate. Many people raised their hands, but when Vienna asked the men to stand up, only five men stood up. This showed the ratio of men to women. Vienna then told us if we wanted a spiritual partner, we were really after a soulmate who will support us in our spiritual exercises. This can be someone who tolerates us and shows love. Your soulmate does not need to share your spiritual hobbies.

Hasan Sonsuz Çeliktaş:
Is your husband interested in spirituality?

Begüm Güven Karace:
He is not interested in such things at all. He does not even know Reiki. However, I’ve always felt supported, such as when I opened my healing center and when I worked on spiritual practices. Yet he is not interested in spirituality himself. This is why you need to be sure about what you really want. So, what do you need? For example, desiring a companion in your life journey is a good thing. Instead of wanting a partner who loves me, I prefer a partner whom I love. Mutual love is important of course, but first and foremost, a partner must be someone I love. I want a partner I will always love and accept in every situation, and this is the first thing on my list. He must be someone I desire, someone I will have a joyous life with, and someone I am sexually compatible with. As you can see, the list must be representative of what you need. You may want a partner who is acceptable to your social environment, someone you can easily introduce to your family, but the other requirements should be about your personal needs.

Hasan Sonsuz Çeliktaş:
What’s more, we shouldn’t write down negative features. For example, we should not write, “Must not be a lunatic.” You may end up meeting the most insane person ever, because this is not how the universe works.

Begüm Güven Karace:
Yes, we should only note down positive features.

Hasan Sonsuz Çeliktaş:
…to get someone with a sound mind and a balanced demeanor.

Begüm Güven Karace:
Exactly, so we will look at our list. Let’s say I am very imbalanced, but I want a balanced partner. Such a soulmate will wait for you to reach a balanced state. If you want a soulmate now, you should ask for a soulmate that fits your current state. After your list is complete, close your eyes and imagine this person near you. What kind of person is there? How does he or she make you feel? When there are other people around that see you together, how would you feel? Do you feel confident, proud, or loving? Or do you feel fear, anxiety, or a desire to run away? Before inviting a soulmate into your life, you should first cleanse these feelings.

Hasan Sonsuz Çeliktaş:
As you also know, people engaged in spiritual practices often suffer oaths of loneliness from their past lives. Healers in this life were often shamans and healers in their past lives as well, and they may have lived far from their tribes. As this program still runs in the background, these people still feel lonely, and this deters people from entering their lives.

Begüm Güven Karace:
An oath of loneliness is important, and in addition, you should also conclude your previous relationships. You need to spiritually complete any previous relationships. You should end any services for such relationships, cut your ties with the partner, and regain your soul fragments from the partner, as well as return that partner’s soul fragments. When my hands are full, I cannot hold someone else’s hands. Even if you were not married or in a serious relationship, you may have cared for a parent over a long period, so you may have a similar spiritual bond with this parent. Ultimately, though, you must also cut down such ties and get back your soul fragments.

Hasan Sonsuz Çeliktaş:
These are necessary preparations. Even if I think I made all these preparations, it does not mean I will meet my soulmate, right? The universe does not work in a way that our minds understand. If I make the preparations in March, I do not necessarily meet a soulmate in April.

Begüm Güven Karace:
Once you are on the path, you will meet suitable partners.

Hasan Sonsuz Çeliktaş:
We close our eyes; we see our fears. We feel anxious. What next?

Begüm Güven Karace:
If you have any fears or worries, you should work on them by engaging in suitable spiritual practices. You should eliminate the fears and anxieties you feel when you hold the hand of a soulmate. You will then be ready to invite this soulmate. You might want to extend the invitation first and then work on your fears, but you need to take action first. For example, you should go out to meet a soulmate. Just go and do something you like to do. Do whatever you like to do, because when people engage in a hobby or other favorite activity, the energy they reflect brings love, joy, and happiness. We meet our soulmates when we do the things we like to do. These activities bring us joy and happiness, so they make us feel better.

Hasan Sonsuz Çeliktaş:
There is a very important trick here. It’s not right to believe you will be happy when you find your soulmate. Instead, you meet a soulmate if you are happy. We always do the opposite. We have lists: I will be that if I do this, I will be this if I do that, and so on. Instead, if you can honestly say, “I am happy. I am full of love. I love myself. I’m happy to be alive,” and when you feel you need nothing, a partner will come to your life.

Begüm Güven Karace:
Exactly. We also should not pine for completion. Thinking that a soulmate will come to your life and complete you is not right. I must first accept that I am already complete and whole. No one else can complete me. There will merely be an exchange between the two of us. We will love and support each other and give and take. If you do not feel complete and whole, you may meet a soulmate, but the person you invite to your life will support your unhappiness, because such a partner can only support your state of mind.

Hasan Sonsuz Çeliktaş:
Can we meditate to invite a soulmate? Could you give an example?

Begüm Güven Karace:
Make a list of the attributes you want in a soulmate and hold this list. Close your eyes and take a deep breath. While exhaling, feel relaxed. Next, ground and center yourself in your heart and visualize descending into Mother Earth, which is a part of All That Is. Visualize drawing up energy through your feet, opening all of your chakras in the process. Imagine your consciousness within a beautiful ball of light, and within this light, rise from your crown and go out to the universe. Go beyond the universe, past the white lights, past the dark light, past the jelly-like substance that is law and into a pearly, iridescent white light. Become a part of this iridescent light as it penetrates your whole body. This is the energy of infinite love. Now, imagine you are a whole with this light and the list you still hold in your hand. Visualize the energy of this list rise up and encompass the whole world. Imagine your invitation reaching an appropriate person. Make your command and know that it is heard. Feel the joy and satisfaction with all your heart. Stay in this energy for a while before opening your eyes when you are ready.
We can also invite compatible friends to our lives through this method.

Hasan Sonsuz Çeliktaş:
Begüm, thank you so much for your time.

Begüm Güven Karace: 
Thank you, Hasan.