Knowing Civility and Manners
Civility is a crown of God’s light
Wear that crown and be secure from all trouble.
Wisdom is the creation of harmony between the mind, body, and soul. Through this, a harmonious spirit, the main source and center of life, steps in and begins to express itself.
When a wise person adapts this harmony to the world of existence, to the outer world, it resonates and catches up with the universal rhythm. Such a person would not separate and not suffer from this lack of separation. In the world of existence, there are behavioral models and rules of integrity set down by societies. This is the misconceived acceptance of some behaviors and the rejection of others.
This generalization of feelings, thoughts, and behavioral models as microsystems are then structured and perceived as a macrosystem using faulty logic. There are no unaccepted behaviors, feelings, and thoughts within the divine system. Everything comes from God, and it returns back to God. There are no crimes or criminals. There is only the connection within the beings that God manifested, and this connection has turned into communication. Civility means perceiving the channels of feeling, thought, and behavior that enables this communication and developing the sensitivity to secure the communication.
In order to resonate with the system, catch up with the natural rhythm, and adapt to the entirety as part of it, it would be enough for me to accept that I’m a particle within the energy field of the entire system. Through adapting, a being does not lose anything from its value. Look at God. The creator of the system adapted, and God’s unity endures, no matter how difficult the conditions seem during this adaptation process. Simply put, adaptation is to accept and surrender. We make decisions in line with the seasons and geographic conditions, and these decisions unite us, bind us, protect us, and guide us. The same goes for the decisions we make in line with communities and cultures, too. They also have features that make us feel united, bonded, protected, and guided. When we look at the physical body’s system, there’s an amazing harmony among the cells, tissues, and organs, as well as within the organs themselves. When there’s any inconsistency in the body, the system takes action to effect the necessary repairs and get the body back on track.
Having said that, the supreme decree has the ability to move consciously through the particle. This gives it the ability to change decisions and discover its own system for its own harmony, rhythm, and integration. Being included in the times, the geography, the capabilities, and the communities you like makes you feel good, and this is the way to eliminate the lack of belonging and the distortion of rhythm. The harmony here occurs through the discoveries of understanding, exploration, and self-knowledge.
This is the condition for adapting to the adjustment law and the movement constantly switches places, from inside to outside, and vice versa. Cellular memory has this information.
The Turkish word for “manners” is “adap,” and it has its roots in Arabic. It has many meanings, but it basically represents the correct way of acting or behaving when something is done. In a way, it is the path, the method, the system. Manners—when adapted to an art form, situation, or state of being—expresses the rules, finesse, and the terms and conditions specific to a subject. Civility, meanwhile, is the successful adaptation to these subjects. You get to civility through nurture. The Turkish word for nurture is “terbiye,” from the Arabic words Reba and Rabb. It refers to upbringing, cultivation, and regulation. We also know that Rabb is mentioned in the Kur’an to express the absolute nurturer, God/Allah. Adaptation to the actual situation exists in the moment, and the process of transformation and regeneration leads to maturity. Only by nurturing the mind does it become possible to allow yourself to participate in the order of the divine system. You need to see the value of the parts, know them, understand their goals, and honor and respect them merely for the creator.
The universal system is a wholesome orchestra consisting of the large and the small. It has an admirable rhythm. We are wanderers seeking for the right instrument for us, but we often get lost during this search. This is the very reason why teachers (The One Who Reminds) and disciples (The One Who Remembers) exist. People who have reached maturity can adapt to the entire system without differentiating, regardless of the time and space, because they know that the orchestra is actually them, the embodiment of their spirits. As is our duty, we move along with every instrument in the orchestra. We do not say “no” to the drums or the flute—we do justice to them all. Our mastery comes from being sensitive, attentive, thoughtful, and delicate. That’s why we know its voice, its color, its taste, its smell, and its texture very well, and we are drawn to it before it comes to us.
The detection of situations that can detune our instruments happens through intuition and inner sight. Our choices are made by the One and Only Willpower. There is no doubt that we would never allow anybody to affect our truth, nor would we want to affect theirs.
If this is an art, the master of truth will help you master this art. The invitation of the master is for those willing and wanting, those who feel they belong. The master waits for those who have lost touch with their bond to ask the question with manners. If there’s not enough spiritual maturity to ask the question, then the master likes to see the maturity in your silence and your patience. If that’s not possible either, the master merely wishes to be remembered among those witnessing the nobility behind your freedom to leave.
May you always be well and sound…
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